I have to be honest. Not just with you few that read my blog, but with myself. I don't like people. There I said it. I dislike people as a whole, but I do like certain people. And now I find myself writing off more and more people because of my beliefs. I'm not talking about my religious beliefs but my parenting choices and the choices that I make for myself.
A few months ago I decided to get more vocal with people when it effects me or my children. Someone came to my house to "visit" and then let their child run around my house while they played a video game. I said something and made this parent cry. Was I wrong? Not in my mind, since this 2 year old child was doing things that were dangerous. Did this change the parent's behavior? Nope, they are still not watching their child.
Why do I tell this story? Because to me it illustrates a serious issue that we have in this country...parents who do not put their children before themselves. Too often I am told, " I can't do that, I need mommy time." This, in my opinion,is a bunch of crap! Why have children if you don't want to be around them? Why have children when you are too lazy to shape them into something wonderful? Why have children if you are not going to protect them from the crap in this world? I will have "mommy time" in 15 years when my children are all adults, thankyouverymuch! Too many parents I know are mom or dad in name only. My job as mother is 24 hours a day, 356 days a year...even when I am tired or sick.
Some of the choices I make as a parent are not for me. I don't breastfeed,co-sleep or homeschool for me. I do all these things because they are best for my children. My husband works so I don't have too because it is best for my children.
Is all this making me sound like I am better than other people who make different choices? I hope not. But I do feel like I have to justify myself to people because my choices are not mainstream. And on top of that, I find myself being unable to speak my mind fully to certain family members. There are just some people who consistently make the wrong choices and then come looking for approval. If I think you are wrong I can not support you. This is very bad English but bear with me....There is no "I" in parent or mom or dad. Let's forget ourselves for a moment and look at these precious gifts from God. Is it good for them to be banished to their room so that I may play a game, or worse, will I watch something with them that is inappropriate? As a parent I have to make the hard decisions because God intrusted these children to me. Who am I to be flippant with a gift from the Lord.
So I guess it all boils down to love your children and be strong enough to make the hard choices.
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Sunday, February 27, 2011
It's been a while...
It's been a while since I have been here. So much craziness and drama going on. My big news..The Lost One got married...without telling me. Now he is not speaking to me because he doesn't want to hear what I have to say. I am ok with this but he will eventually have to listen to me. This girl he married has a baby...well 19 month old. So that makes me a grandmother or Avia, which is Latin for grandmother. I would be lying if I said I was excited, especially since I am actively trying to have a baby. We finally got The Enforcer tested and...WE HAVE SWIMMERS!! I'm jumping...I really am!!
Homeschool is going so much better than before. We are making such progress with the Preteens writing. When he started this year he was probably a 2nd grade level..now he is about a late 3rd, early 4th. My other good news on that front is that we are bringing home the Quiet One next year. I have been having problems with his school. He is doing great but I have felt like an outcast for awhile now and it has really been apparent here lately. He is pretty observant and I don't want his feelings to be hurt. So next year he will be learning Latin along with the Preteen.
Isn't it amazing how something little can make a big difference? I bought some posters at the dollar store that have letters and numbers on them. Up until this point Gravy girl has not wanted to do math. But now that they are on the wall she is all about math!! Now if I could just get her to remember the number before 10.
This next paragraph has nothing to do with my family. I have observed in that last week two instances of people commiting crimes and then posting about it on youtube. What is wrong with people? Where is their brain? Why would you do that? Just so you know, the police know how to access youtube too.
That is all I have to say tonight. Well, I am missing my friend who is in Montana ice fishing without me but I know she is having a great time.
Homeschool is going so much better than before. We are making such progress with the Preteens writing. When he started this year he was probably a 2nd grade level..now he is about a late 3rd, early 4th. My other good news on that front is that we are bringing home the Quiet One next year. I have been having problems with his school. He is doing great but I have felt like an outcast for awhile now and it has really been apparent here lately. He is pretty observant and I don't want his feelings to be hurt. So next year he will be learning Latin along with the Preteen.
Isn't it amazing how something little can make a big difference? I bought some posters at the dollar store that have letters and numbers on them. Up until this point Gravy girl has not wanted to do math. But now that they are on the wall she is all about math!! Now if I could just get her to remember the number before 10.
This next paragraph has nothing to do with my family. I have observed in that last week two instances of people commiting crimes and then posting about it on youtube. What is wrong with people? Where is their brain? Why would you do that? Just so you know, the police know how to access youtube too.
That is all I have to say tonight. Well, I am missing my friend who is in Montana ice fishing without me but I know she is having a great time.
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